Some Problems in Friendship

Few people deny the facts that friends will be a great support when life throws a curve ball to you and it is very important to have friend(s) to confide to. In other words, friendship is one of the most substantial and crucial relationships in our lives. Contrary to the fix relationship between family members which is formed by nature, friendship is a kind of flexible relationship. It probably means that it is up to you to choose who to be your friends and how to maintain the relationship. Of course, friendship is harder to be handled with than other relationships and there are always some problems in friendship.

First, it’s hard to different the straight and the judgment. I always want to count on my best friend to give it to me straight, but I hate to be judged. On the other hand, I like to have a frank exchange of views with my friends. However, I am afraid of being too criticizing to my friends. In my opinion, the solutions of this problem depend on different situation. I’ll become noncommittal, even dishonest to my friend in trivial matters. For example, I will say to my friend: “Blue looks great on you”, even though I think it’s awful. But I’ll try to, most of the time, engage with my friends and answer forthrightly and honestly.

Secondly, distance and time could destroy the friendships. No matter how close you and your friend were, it’s very hard to maintain friendship if you and your friend haven’t seen each other for ages or lived in different countries. As you know, time makes it’s difficult to catch up and distance makes it’s hard to stay in touch. However, we can contact each other conveniently due to current technologies, such as email, cell phone, Facebook, Twitter etc. In spit of juggling work, kids, and all of life’s other stresses on a daily basis, nowadays, we can be much easier to keep in touch than used to be.

In order to maintain precious friendships, we need to realize that there are some problems in friendship. How to be straight but not judgmental? How to overcome obstacles of time and distance? The solutions of the first question depend on different situation. And current technologies help us to solve the second question.